As a certified and experienced Law of Attraction life coach sometimes people come to coaching because they’re not happy. They call me and ask if coaching can help them be happier. I can’t wait to tell them that it can! Not only will they learn processes and techniques which will help them now, but also in the future. This is great because they’ll have the tools to stay happy long term.
You may be wondering what the Law of Attraction has to do with any of this. The answer is that it has everything to do with feeling happy.
As a matter of fact many times I’ll ask someone on a scale of 1-10 (1 being the unhappiest), where they fall on that scale. Sometimes they may say -3! That means they’re feeling really unhappy. After a few weeks of coaching, by practicing what they’ve learned, I ask them again. I ask “Where are you now on that 1-10 scale?” They’ll say they’re around a 4 or 5. Feeling at a 4 or 5 may not sound like someone who’s feeling that happy. However, coming from a -3, a 4 or 5 feels great. Then as time goes on, they’ll get themselves even higher on that scale!
What does the Law of Attraction have to do with it?
We know that Law of Attraction means like energy attracts like energy, and that goes for our thoughts too. Like thoughts attract like thoughts. For example, if someone is feeling down and pondering why, they’re going to attract more “why” questions. These questions will just keep them feeling down because they’re all about why they’re feeling down. Any time you realize that you’re thinking one thought after another that isn’t positive, remember that more of those type of thoughts will come in. Once you remember that, you can then start focusing on better feeling thoughts so that more better feeling thoughts will come in.
Through coaching, the above mentioned person who’s lost in negative thoughts will learn how to deliberately ask themselves more positive questions that will help them feel better. This will help them to stay happy on purpose. (Remember like thoughts attract like thoughts). For example, if someone is feeling unhappy I may ask them to tell me about activities they enjoy doing, and why they enjoy them. Someone may say they enjoy going for walks along the shore. It makes them feel good because they love the sound of the waves breaking and the feel of the sand on their feet. They may also tell me that they really enjoy going camping. They enjoy it because they love being out in nature, it makes them feel so free. Someone else may say that the love to go shopping at the mall. They enjoy seeing all the new items and trying things on makes them feel good.
There are so many activities we can think of that make us feel good. The trick is to remember to focus on those feel good activities. By doing that you’ll feel better because it feels good to think of them. It sounds easy to do, but you have to remember to do it.
How to stay happy on purpose.
The more things they come up with that they enjoy will in that moment make them feel better than they were feeling. They took deliberate action to help themselves feel a little better. With time, practice, and more tools to help them, before they know it they’ll be feeling really good and happy on purpose.
Take Jane for example. She called me because she didn’t know why, but just wasn’t feeling very happy. I asked her many important questions to try to determine what could be causing this. Believe it or not it doesn’t always matter if the person knows why they’re not feeling happy, but it can help if it is a specific thing.
Jane was an example of someone who didn’t know they weren’t happy. She seemed to have everything but the way she felt inside didn’t reflect that. I told her that like thoughts attract like thoughts. She totally understood that she had to change her thoughts because most of the time they were about how unhappy she was feeling. I then asked her to make a list of how she thought she would feel if she were feeling really happy. Some of the things on her list were that she would look forward to each day and she would have a feeling of excitement. She said that she would also feel better about her career and how she helps people. Her list went on and on. She didn’t realize it at the time, but that was the first step for her. To get in touch with how she would feel if she felt happy.
Once she had her list, she could then focus on those feel good feelings and spend time thinking about that. Within a few weeks of doing that and a few other processes I taught her she was feeling so much better! I was so happy for her because she was learning how to deliberately keep herself feeling happy. As the weeks went on she only felt happier and is currently excited about her life and enjoying each day.
There Are So Many Examples of Staying Happy
This is just one example of how it is possible to be happy on purpose. From a Law of Attraction point of view, we can deliberately take control of how we feel based on what we’re thinking about. Even if we just feel a little happier at first, it’s the start to becoming happy in general, step by step. With a willingness to want to feel happier, and practice working with the Law of Attraction, anyone can enjoy an improved state of mind. Of course the happier you keep yourself, the more circumstances and situations will happen for you that will support you feeling happy.
It really is true that when you live your life from a Law of Attraction point-of-view, it only gets better!
Choose to have a great day!