Sometimes when we are feeling lonely, it’s very easy to stay stuck in that feeling of loneliness. We get caught up in reminding ourselves how lonely we are, how bad it feels, how unsatisfying life can be, etc.
True to the nature of the Law of Attraction like thoughts attract like thoughts. Therefore, the more we focus on how lonely we are, the more lonely we will feel because the more we’ll attract other thoughts about being lonely.
What a dreadful place to be in. An endless loop of thoughts keeping us in the low vibration of loneliness. It can seem like there’s no way out.
There Is A Way Out Of Loneliness
There is a way out of loneliness and it starts with a thought. Yes, just one simple thought can be the open door to a better feeling place. A better feeling state of mind.
So what is that magic thought? That magic thought is to deliberately start thinking about activities you enjoy doing and why you enjoy them. You can even start thinking about things you like. By doing that you’ll start diverting your thoughts to better thoughts. It would go something like this “I really like going to flea markets. I enjoy walking around and finding hidden treasures.” Of course use activities you like, but you get the idea. By deliberately doing this, you’ll start to feel better.
Another example would be if you’re someone who enjoys hiking. Simply think about all the reasons you enjoy it. Maybe it feels good to be out in nature, or maybe seeing and hearing the birds and the other little critters along the way puts a smile on your face. Maybe passing by and saying hello to fellow hikers gives you a sense of community, or maybe it’s all of the above? Whatever it is, deliberately thinking of activities you enjoy, and why you enjoy them will help you to feel better overall.
Once you start feeling better, from that improved place, then you can deliberately choose to take action and go do something enjoyable to cancel out the loneliness. Maybe you’ll get inspired to call a friend and ask them to join you for tea, or maybe you’ll go to the book store and catch up on the latest books that appeal to you, or maybe you’ll go to the gym.
Set Yourself Up For Success
Another way to help yourself out of feeling lonely is to set yourself up for success. What that means is deliberately plan activities that you enjoy. Maybe you’re someone who finds that weekends can feel lonely. If that’s true, instead of sitting around waiting for something to happen, plan something. Call a friend and suggest going to the mall to walk around. Plan to see a movie you’ve been wanting to see. Take a drive to a scenic view in your area. There are endless things you can plan. The point is to plan something. By doing that you’re taking control and setting yourself up to feel satisfied and content.
If you think about it there’s no reason to allow yourself to feel lonely. Between deliberately taking control of your thoughts and/or planning something enjoyable, loneliness should not be an option.
Joe Used To Be Lonely
A while ago I was working with a client who said he felt lonely. After asking him a series of questions it was apparent that he was not taking any action to help himself feel better. He had excuse after excuse of why he was lonely. Some of them were that his friends rarely called him to hang out. His girlfriend was sometimes available to go out, but not all the time. Once the sun went down, he didn’t like to drive. As you can see he had all kinds of excuses that backed him up feeling lonely. After he told me all these excuses I countered each one with a question.
My response was something like: “Do you ever call your friends to try to set up a social activity?” “Are you sure your girlfriend is the one for you, or would you rather attract someone who was always available?” “If you don’t like to drive at night is there anything enjoyable you can do from home?”
He paused for a minute and then realized that he wasn’t taking any deliberate action to take control of his social life. He agreed to start calling friends to set up social activities. He also realized that though he really liked his girlfriend, if she wasn’t willing to be committed to him 100%, then she wasn’t for him.
Joe Isn’t Lonely Anymore
Within a few weeks Joe told me he rarely felt lonely because he reached out to make plans and as a result he suddenly had lots of plans with friends. He also talked to his girlfriend and told her that he was disappointed that she wasn’t always available for him. He was very happy to find out that she didn’t realize he felt that way and was happy that he wanted to see her more.
On top of the action he took, I also talked to him about improving his thoughts. He did confess to me that he was caught up in low vibration thoughts about feeling lonely. After some coaching, he found out a few processes that helped him focus on thoughts of feeling satisfied overall. He also started thinking about how full his social life is and how wonderful his relationship with his girlfriend is. Even though at the time it wasn’t true yet, he realized he had to put himself in the vibration of it to make it happen.
A few weeks later Joe told me that he’s never felt so happy and had so many social engagements. He took control of his life both from his thoughts and his actions. He said he’ll never go back to feeling lonely because there’s no reason to.
Beat Loneliness? You can!
So the next time you feel lonely, remember that your thoughts are the open door out of loneliness into happy satisfaction. Better thoughts cause inspired action.
If you are feeling lonely or not satisfied in some way, make use of my personal coaching services. I’m here for you!
I offer new clients a free mini phone coaching session, just contact me now to schedule it.
You can attract what you want and live a happy, satisfied life!